Contexts when it is appropriate for a child to be less self-disclosing
- When choosing to value privacy and time alone
- When choosing to share aspects of him/herself with a specific individual rather than more generally
- When choosing to hold back what s/he is really thinking or feelings in a particular situation
For example
- Holding a thought or question in his/her head and waiting for an appropriate time to ask it
- Listening to others and not interrupting
- Choosing to spend time alone, not connected to any social media devices
- Struggling with something on their own rather than reaching out for help
- Choosing not to demonstrate skills so that others can have an opportunity to develop their skills without feeling inferior
- Holding back an answer or solution so that others can get to it in their own time
- Giving someone opportunity to voice an idea, opinion or thought rather than sharing their own
- Holding back an opinion or view if it may inflame or agitate a situation or hurt someone
- Keeping a confidence
- Sharing something personal or intimate with a trusted individual rather than to a wider audience
- Choosing not to post intimate, personal or evocative things on social media
- Meeting someone for the first time
Contexts when it is appropriate for a child to be more self-disclosing
- When choosing to spend time with others
- When choosing to share aspects of him/herself with a wider audience
- When choosing to share what s/he is really thinking or feelings in a particular situation
For example
- Performing through drama, sport, public speaking, music
- Collaborating on a shared task
- Sharing thoughts and ideas with others to get their feedback
- Suggesting ideas which could make a positive difference
- Using qualities and skills to contribute to school life
- Sharing experiences which are helpful for others to hear
- Posting appropriate comments on social media which build friendships
- Asking a question or voicing an opinion in a lesson
- Joining in conversations
- Telling someone how s/he is feeling
- Telling a teacher if work is too easy or too challenging
- Asking for help or advice