Bullying is one of most parents’ worst nightmares. It is excruciating to feel powerless to protect your child if they are being picked on and hurt by others. Unlike dealing with bullying with small children, parents of teenagers cannot simply rescue their child from, or discipline the perpetrators. The knock-on consequences of stigma, social shame and humiliation mean they must work with the school and equip their child with the resourcefulness and capacity to stand up for themselves.
Children who show self-doubting, self-protective behaviours may need help to be aware of how they may be drawn into relationships in which they are dominated by others. Helping them to assert their own voice in groups will be important. Helping them obtain a sense of value through recognition of their effort, success, skills and character will diminish both the impact and likelihood of being picked on.
Children who show closed and remote behaviours may be seen as different and as outsiders from their group. Helping these children to develop appropriate ways to join in and manage social relationships will be important. Helping them develop tastes, interests and styles which fit in with others, whilst not crushing their individuality, will be important.
Children who are self-referential and self-assured may need to become more aware of how their impact on others who are less assured can be heavy and dominating. They may need help to consider others more and be more sensitive in group settings.
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- The articles on this page support children with patterns of behaviour which are known to be particularly associated with problems of bullying.