Signposts to increase your child’s trust of themself
by Dr Jo Walker
You may be concerned that your child has a low trust of their own ideas, thoughts, feelings and opinion. Healthy trust of one self enables children to develop mutual friendships, resilience and good judgement.
Children who develop a fixed bias toward a low trust of them self can have increased risks. They can be easily lead and prone to adopting other’s ideas and opinions. They can be overly defensive and misread people’s positive intentions. They can become anxious and over-burdened, trying to win approval and avoid being exclused from the group.
So how can you signpost your children to increase their trust of themselvs?
Encourage your children to be more robust when doing something silly. Being able to not take yourself too seriously is a great skill!
- Set the example by looking for opportunities to make fun of yourself
- Allow your children to make jokes with you (respectfully, of course!).
Also, look out for when you can give your children opportunity to take responsibility and leadership
- Offer them a personal invitation to take on a role or responsibility in the home such as… taking charge of the washing, or feeding the dog, or planning what to visit on the family holiday.
- Reflect back to them the qualities and skills you see in them, thereby increasing their confidence.
30 Nov 2016 - Lowering your child's trust of themself