Self-Referential and Attention-Expectant
David was a popular boy; optimistic, easy going, quite relaxed. He was not bothered by things that affected some others. He shrugged off doing badly in his exams, seemed to make new friends easily at his new school and didn’t worry too much about life. His teachers complained he didn’t push himself. You had noticed he was sometimes a bit indifferent, even callous about other’s feelings. Like he didn’t notice when others might be hurt or upset. Maybe that was what led him to take what was around him- all the chocolate biscuits, his brother’s coat, his friend’s homework- as if it was just there for him to use. You hoped he didn’t use other people like that. When he got into soft drugs, there was something in you that was not surprised…. Like he thought he was invincible, it would never hurt him… but no one is invincible.
Children who develop a fixed bias toward high trust of them self along with a high trust of others, can have increased risks: they can develop a sense of entitlement and inflated self-regard. They can be complacent and expect others to solve their problems. They can be prone to experimentation and have a naïve, unrealistic sense of invincibility.
The articles on this page will guide parents how to put in place signposts at home so that children developing a bias toward high trust of them self along with high trust of others, can learn to steer more healthily.