Distracted and Deflecting Behaviours
At first site Zac appeared full of confidence. Chatty, buoyant and involved in the action. He seemed to ride the waves on social media, and as part of all the group chats and tags. In fact he never seemed to miss anything. You noticed he would post back almost instantly when it pinged. It was like he was always on, reacting, responding. The first thing he’d do when he got his homework was to see how his group were doing it; post for help, not think for himself. You wondered what he might be sharing if he was so quick to voice his thoughts. Inappropriate stuff? Was he learning to self-reflect? He had a camping trip coming up, and you wondered how on earth he would cope being alone for 24 hours….
Children who develop a fixed bias toward high self-disclosing can have increased risks: they can lack impulse control and develop poor listening skills. They may not develop the self-efficacy to solve problems themselves and may find time alone stressful. They may become distracted and reach for unhealthy deflecting ways to self-sooth in times of strain. Being always ‘on’ they may be prone to exhaustion.
The articles on this page will guide parents how to put in place signposts at home so that children developing a bias toward high self-disclosing can learn to steer more healthily.